Posts Tagged ‘moving out of the big city’

Is the grass really greener in the country?

Country life

Country life

This happens every time I go to visit my sister. After fighting the traffic and the asses that cut you off or weave through and around the other cars, after passing the shopping malls and rows and rows of cookie cutter houses you enter an open green space full of small towns and farms and cattle and a handful of cars.

You probably know my desire to get out of the city, which is kind of funny considering I purposefully moved here because it is the big city. But my reasons for coming here twenty years ago have changed. Perhaps I don’t use the facilities the city offers as often as I use to, though I still pay for them. Yeah, a little. Perhaps I’m tired of having my neighbours watching us in the backyard. Yeah, kind of creepy. Perhaps I’m tired of being polite to all the rude people. Definitely. There are a lot of little reasons I want to move versus one big reason. The city was great when I moved here, but now with young kids I’m looking for something else. And by something else I don’t mean a home in suburbia. I think that would be worse.

So my husband and I have mentally decided we’d like to get out, but it’s not as easy as it sounds. Living out of the city might be cheaper, but you still have expenses to pay so work is essential. Thus the problem. But that doesn’t stop us from going through the MLS site, checking out turn of the century homes on acres of land.

I know what you city dwellers are thinking. Yes there’s less selection of stores and items in the store, but how many types of bread do you need to choose from. I’m sure I would survive. Yes there would be less to do nearby. I may have to drive to one town to get groceries and another town for the kids swimming lessons and another town to catch a movie. But with three young kids who tire easily, I seem to spend a lot of time in the car anyway. Yes I might have to give up on visiting my local Indian or Thia restaurant but cutting down on eating out is probably good thing for both health and money reasons. And many small towns have celebrations around their own farming community culture. I think I’d enjoy celebrating my own English/Scottish heritage for once, which seems to get lost in the big city. I’d like some quiet and space, though the bugs might be an issue.

Would moving to the country live-up to my expectations? Because once you’re out of the city it’s hard to get back in. I don’t know, but I think there’s only one way to find out and at this point I think I’m ready to take the risk. Now all we need is the kick in the ass to get us there.

Where’s the line between saving and wasting your time

After I dropped my son off for his afternoon kindergarten class, my youngest daughter and I walked over to the grocery store around the corner to pick up a few things. We live in the big city, but our neighbourhood feels very small town (with three times as many houses and cars of course). We spend most of our time in our neighbourhood. We walk to school, to the local library, grocery store, convenience store, video store, movie theatre and soon to open, veterinary clinic.

Don’t get me wrong, I like my neighbourhood and all but I still want to move far away from the big city. So the walk made me think how much I would miss having everything so close and convenient. I know there are small towns with shops close by, but when I’m talking about moving out of the city, I’m talking country home with land, population 100. Probably not too many shops to walk to in those areas. I was thinking how I’d have to get use to driving everywhere to get things, even a replacement bag of milk (‘cuz no matter how much land I have, I’m never owning a cow).

My sister lives in the country, sandwiched between two farms. Since her husband works in town he does most of the shopping. They are living on a limited budget and have four kids in the family, so there’s no splurging when it comes to grocery shopping. After flipping through the grocery flyers, my sister’s husband drives from store to store (and since most towns only have one store, this actually means driving from town to town). All just to save a few cents on milk and apples. Now I’m no economics major, but how much are you really saving? The cost of driving from town to town must be higher than this weeks deal at Foodland. Don’t you think?

I’m all for saving and I know if we do get out of the big city it will mean giving up the big money and making adjustments. I hope along the way I don’t lose my common sense. [mental note: refer to this blog if I feel the need to drive more than 20km for a savings of $0.10]

Venus goes into retrograde this month

So as I mentioned in an earlier post, I feel this will be a year of change for our family. One of the things we’re trying to work at changing is where we live. I like the big city, don’t love it, so I’m trying to get out. The problem is that this change is out of my control. My husband has a great paying job but one he’s not enjoying as much anymore, so he’s looking to get out. Out of what he’s doing. Out of the city. With that said, we found out recently that one of the promising prospects to get out, fell through. I think we both felt a little discouraged and discouraged.

I’m sure I’m like most people, I don’t believe in horoscopes, unless of course they promise great things. Sometimes things are uncertain and it would be great to know the plan that lies ahead of you. I struggle with the concept of Destiny. I think we control our fate, to a certain degree, but you can’t deny the influences of outside forces: where you live, the job you do, or even the people you meet. I think all of these impact your path in life. Maybe that’s why I like to read horoscopes. I like to read into them good things that will happen. And by believing in these good things, I’ll make them happen (you know, positive attitude bring positive change).

I guess I was looking for answers or rather reassurances that we were moving in the right direction with the whole new job, new life idea. Maybe that’s why I had a yearly astrological reading done for my husband at Christmas. Notice how I didn’t get one for myself. Maybe I thought it would be easier for me to ignore or disregard or scoff at the results if I didn’t like them.

It’s kind of interesting to read the report. It talks about this being a ‘mid life crisis year’. A year of ‘breaking from the old life and moving on to the next stage‘. And as I read each month’s summary I can see how events that unfold fit what’s described. But then horoscopes and astrological readings are pretty vague and are probably designed that way so you do just that, read into them, justify what they say.

Well, I was hoping by Spring we’d have a better sense on where we’d be on the idea of moving out of the big city. I feel we’re no further ahead, though we both haven’t lost our desire to move on, which is a good thing. If anything that just confirms to me that this change is something we really want and not just a desire to change for the sake of change itself. And according to the astrological report, events will unfold this summer that will keep our optimism high (not that I really believe in horoscopes or anything).